Oh, hi there! It has been a while, I know. I didn’t mean to take an unannounced break like that from you.
I haven’t been quiet because I don’t have lots that I want to talk with you about, because I do. I actually have quite a few draft post ideas just waiting for actual words and photographs to fill the pages. Really good stuff, too!
It’s more just that I’m still new at this and still trying to figure out where I want to go with it all. When I started Bubba and Bean, I had this vision of sharing recipes and inspiration for getting families to share healthy, and really tasty meals together. And that’s still a great vision! The thing is, its umm…not exactly easy. Especially lately.
Here’s the thing: Willa is on strike from dinner. It started a few weeks ago and girlfriend has stayed strong in her pursuit to no longer eat a normal dinner with the family. She has been straight up refusing almost every option that I lay out each night, despite my best efforts.
I got tired of fighting with her every night so I changed my message to her recently: your choices are to eat dinner with us at the table without whining (oh, the whining!!) or not eat dinner and go to a different room. Basically, I’m trusting that she knows her body well enough to confidently be able to say “no” to dinner and not be starving. Because I don’t want to force her to eat. But I also don’t want her eating peanut butter every night for dinner (her ideal).
I’m telling myself it’s just a phase and trying not to take it personally. It’s just that when the whole vibe of my blog is supposed to be about families eating together in a shared experience, she’s kind of killing that vibe.
Or maybe she’s not. Maybe instead she is reminding me that family dinners aren’t always a success and that’s OK (or at least, that’s reality). And that even when they are a success, they don’t have to look like everyone sitting at the table enjoying a deep, meaningful conversation about life while eating all of the vegetables on their plate. REAL dinners have to contend with the fact that sometimes kids are picky eaters. And that sometimes people just aren’t hungry when they “should” be. And that its hard to ask two five year olds to sit still for more than two minutes. And that potty talk is very funny to them, no matter where they are, including the dinner table.
Basically it’s messy, and I have to remind myself that that’s ok.
So here I am, at this place where I want my kids so badly to eat and enjoy the food that I make but at the same time knowing that I can’t control that. All I can do is my best and accept that this is the definition of parenthood: loving the hell our of our children for being themselves, even when we trick ourselves into thinking that we want them to be something else. Like a 5 year old that cleans her plate every night, thanks her mother for the amazing meal and then immediately takes her empty, clean dishes to the sink and washes her hands. Is that too much to ask?!
Just kidding, it is. It’s totally too much and a ridiculous thing to ask because that’s not my daughter. And that’s all I can ask her to be: herself.
So I’ve decided to take a cue from all of this and change course a bit. I am going to share recipes that are inspired by my kids, even if they don’t look amazing in photographs or meet all of my nutritional standards. Because I may not know exactly where I want this blog to go, but I know the one thing that I want it to be more than anything else: real. And so I plan on being a little more free with the camera and less obsessed with the editing. And I want to involve my kids in the experience. I did, after all, name this blog after them.
So in the spirit of transparency, I am sharing a super simple recipe for the kind of food that Willa will always eat: basically anything involving peanut butter. This peanut butter banana smoothie has just three ingredients and is surprisingly satisfying; even I will eat it for breakfast some mornings.
So I raise you a smoothie glass and cheers you all to enjoying this ride together and doing nothing more than trying our best, every day. Whatever that might look like.
- 1 banana, frozen
- ½ cup non-dairy milk
- 1 heaping scoop peanut butter
- Combine all ingredients into a high speed blender and blend until creamy and smooth. Enjoy!